struggling a little

As the title to this post says, over the last couple of days, I have found myself struggling a little.
Struggling in respect to feeling a little overwhelmed with my eating and my depression. I am trying to not let it affect me too much. I am trying to focus on things that have and do make me happy, which seems to be helping.
I think me struggling a little over the last few days, has a little to do with me deleting my Facebook account. On Facebook, I used to spend a lot of time on their wasting away hours at a time, talking to people, looking at peoples accounts. So I kind of guess, I'm learning to do things other then Facebook, which is amazingly good :-) Its lovely, to not rely on Facebook for my entertainment.

I am becoming a little obsessed with my eating again, which isn't good, I realise that. But I am working on it. I find myself obsessing about what I am going to eat for all my meals that day, thinking of things that are in the house that I could eat! I am trying to sit with these feelings, rather then giving in! It's not easy but I am 100% certain, it's worth the fight!

Struggling in this hot lovely weather! It's lovely but it is a little too stifling, especially at night. But I hope it stays when we go on our holidays :-) Relaxing on the beach, going for walks and just chilling out with my hubby and Milo will be lovely!

I have been a very lucky girl and received some lovely early birthday gifts :-) Hubby has got me a lovely eternity ring and my parents have treated me to some lovely summer clothes!

My best friend has been away on holidays for a week and I am missing her! Hopefully will get the chance to meet up with her before I go on mine :-)

So here it goes for a positive day and not giving in to the bad and depressive thoughts :-)

Facebook is the route of all evil!

So I have come to the conclusion that Facebook is the route of all evil!

I have realised since deleting my account, how unhappy it was making me. Or how unhappy I was making myself, looking at others accounts and looking at their photos of their families. Which in turn led to feelings of intense jealousy, empty feeling within myself and constantly comparing myself to others.
It was like I was torturing myself looking at others accounts. Almost like I was saying to myself "Look at what you can't have!" Well you know what, I will have it! I just do not know when it will happen!
I will prove to everyone that I am strong enough to come through all of this!

I won't lie, I was spending far too much time on Facebook and it was becoming addictive! I feel my depression is slowly improving, since deleting my account! I am finding myself not eating as much through boredom, which is a turnaround for the books!

I do think one of the many reasons I was on Facebook, was to talk to friends'' to keep myself company, whilst hubby was out at work. But I have come to realise that these people were/are not my true friends! They weren't/aren't picking up the phone, texting me, emailing me, or even messaging me on Facebook when I was on there. It was all me, talking to others. All one sided. I guess I kind of grew tired of me ALWAYS initiating conversation with others. So I guess I'll find out who my true friends are, if they contact me in any other means other than Facebook!

I am finding myself excited about going away for a few days to see family. Also looking forward to be sat on the beach with a picnic, going for walks, sitting in the garden, going for afternoon tea and just having fun! I am a little anxious about how I will deal with my emotions, but I feel able to tackle these head on :-) I am strong and I am worthy of happiness!

I am loving the fact that my depression seems to be slowly lifting, and being slowly replaced with happiness and laughter. Having lovely weather may be also helping, as I am out in the garden a lot! Who knows? But you know what? I am going to work my hardest for my new found growing happiness and laughter to stay :-)

Onwards and Upwards

In my post today, I just want to clarify a few things. After one person leaving rude, inappropriate, argumentative and insulting comments directed at myself, on my last blog. I just wanted to make people aware why I write my blog.

I write my blog for me, a place so I can write down my true feelings. This blog is about me learning to love myself and trying to come to terms with how things are going on in my life. This blog was not started for people to give me sympathy. If anything, it was also to make people aware of how I am feeling. I reached a point in my life, where I didn't want to hide my feelings from anyone any longer. 

So I have now removed the 'comments' section, as I felt negative comments are detrimental to my recovery. Some people may suggest I am burying my head in the sand, but I feel I have to do this and put myself and my recovery first!

I have also deleted my Facebook account, as this person was 'anonymous', I feel as if I can't trust anyone 100%. Also I was looking at other peoples profiles, seeing photos of their happy families and reading about what they were up to. As a consequence I felt intense jealously and fuelling my depression even further. Also it was getting additive for me. So I have removed myself from this situation, until I feel stronger to deal with it head on!

I realise by putting my true feelings out there for the 'public' to view, I was always open to negative comments, but it doesn't make it any easier to cope with. 

So for now I am going to carry on as I am with this blog, with just the small change of doing away with the comments. I am going to try and be much more positive and enjoy life! Enjoy the things that I am forever grateful for in life, my darling, gorgeous, caring, attentive husband, our gorgeous pets and of course family and friends! I am going to try and focus on being positive and not focusing on the negatives in life all the time!

Sod what anyone else thinks of me! I am going to do this for me and my darling husband!!! :-)

Onwards and Upwards is the only way forward for me

Diabetes sucks!

So last night was an experience...

My sugar levels were around 26, when I had my dinner so done a correction, still didn't go down, so done another correction, still didn't go down. So changed my infusion set on my pump, still didn't go down... 

Decided the best thing was to go to A& E, as I could be in DKA. Arrived at A & E, and it was so busy! So hubby checked me in, whilst waiting for the nurse, I kept going to the loo. I started to feel really unwell, just wanting to close my eyes and sleep, wanting to be sick, blurred eye sight, dizzy, banging headache and not really aware of what was going on around me. So hubby tested my sugar levels again and they had gone up. I told him to go and find a nurse, within 5 mins I was being assessed. 

They wanted to get me on a drip asap, urine & blood sample. I couldn't stand long enough to walk through the ward, so had to be wheeled through in a wheelchair. 

Luckily there were no signs of ketones in my urine, so I was put on fluids to try and bring down my levels. Within an hour or so, I think, they had come down to 15. I then asked the nurse, what else they were doing for me, she said they were just waiting for the Doctor to see me, to check my bloods. I explained that my sugar levels were now coming down and I can keep a close eye on them at home, and said I wanted to discharge myself. She agreed, signed the papers, we then went home.

 

At some point in the morning, I had a hypo, typical! Anyone thats diabetic, will know when you correct a high, its likely it will drop too low... 

Woke up properly this morning and feel like I have been hit by a truck! Spent the day in bed resting and awaiting a delivery (thats a whole different story!)

Now I am awaiting my lovely hubby coming home from work, as he went into work late, as he was looking after me. 

I feel a little better, but still exhausted. Hopefully a good nights sleep tonight, will help me out :-)

Diabetes sucks!! 

What you feel like with high sugar levels!

A small Victory!

Today I spent the morning around my beautiful friends house! Had a lovely time with her and her beautiful girls. She was also babysitting her cousins little one as well. Had a lovely catch up with her.
I totally forgot that it was playgroup today for the kiddies. I won't lie, I felt a little overwhelmed, especially with how my emotions have been lately. Felt a little panicky on the walk there and when we first arrived as there was a pregnant woman and toddlers running around!
It saddens me that my friend got upset with how I was, instead of enjoying time with her beautiful babies... I told her don't be daft, sometimes I got to push myself into situations that make me uneasy, to break through the way that I am feeling to become happier :-)
But you know what I am soooooooooo pleased, I faced this! When I reflect upon my morning, I have achieved so much :-) It just goes to show when you push you're comfort boundaries, its worth it!

I am so happy that I have a great friend and she looks out for how I feel. But I don't want her to be preoccupied with how I am feeling, I want her to enjoy spending time with her little ladies as well as me, and not feel sad for me!

So today is a positive post, with positive vibes! Onwards and Upwards!

This is how I  feel right now :-)

I am strong and I am a fighter :-)

Today I am feeling very happy and excited that my lovely hubby is coming home!

Today I feel joy about everything in life! I feel like I am slowly making progress, even if it doesn't always feel that way! 

I feel total elation that I baked a lovely cake yesterday, but I only had one small slice! And I didn't/don't feel the need to eat anymore... 

I feel life is testing me right now, but you know what? I am strong and I am a fighter ;-) 

Feeling nice and summery today! 

The cake I baked yesterday, pretty proud of it!

Me and Casper messing about last night!

Only 1 cat missing! All keeping me company!

Mucho love to all xxxx

Feeling vulnerable

Today I'm not sure how I feel. Part of me feels ashamed that last night, as I was alone and was upset, I turned to self-harm. I know this isn't the answer, and yes I do feel ashamed. But I think I have to accept that I done it and move on, as feeling ashamed isn't going to help myself out of this situation!

Today I feel a sense of emptiness around me. I feel a sense of inadequacy, with how I dealt with my emotions yesterday but more how I 'accepted' the news. 'New Baby' announcements should be joyous occasions, enjoyed by all! I hate that whilst I feel happiness and excitement for the parents, there are so many parts of me that feel upset, empty, worthless, inadequate, shame and vulnerable all at the same time! I hate that the sheer mention of babies, seeing babies in the street, seeing or hearing of pregnant women, seeing or hearing 'new baby' announcements leave me feeling really vulnerable and not knowing how to deal with this emotion.

Today I woke, thinking I heard my husband's voice saying hello to Milo! In my confused, half asleep state, I turned over and he wasn't there! I miss him. I wish he was here to give me a cuddle and tell me, everything is going to be ok.

Today I have baked him a chocolate and orange cake (just got the icing left to do), for when he returns home tomorrow! I am looking forward to spending the weekend with my love, as he has been extra busy with work lately. So the sun will be shining and I hope we can get out and enjoy it some of it!
I will also be dragging him to Bingo, as I received 'free' tickets for us both, so should be fun!
It's a struggle trying to think of things to do that doesn't cost too much money, as I am out of work at the moment, so money is tight!

Today I have gone on a cycle ride to the local shops and taken the dog out for a walk. It felt nice to get out in the fresh air. Makes me happy going out on my bike, even if I am not 100% confident riding it! Im getting there slowly :-)

Today I have also been watching some TED talks of Brene Brown, she talks a lot about shame and vulnerability. A few of the things she said has really struck a cord in me " Stop looking outside yourself for external validation. Own you're own story!"and "What we need in the world, is love sweet love. Fierce love! Courageous love for each other!". She also goes on to answer a question, from the audience about women dealing with infertility. "Women seek empathy for the pain they are in about not becoming a mum. Then some people offer sympathy stories, leading that woman to suffer shame!"
I know that I can only talk for myself, but on the rare occasions I want to talk about infertility, I don't want sympathy stories. I don't want people to say "I know someone that tried for 10 years and finally fell pregnant", "Don't think about it and it will happen", "Don't stress" etc etc. I know people feel well, but it leaves me feeling worse emotionally, a failure!

Today I long for the day that I can accept this situation, so I am able to move forward in my path, to finally conceiving our baby! I long to be on cloud nine and announcing that me and my husband are going to be parents and I do believe that one day, it will happen, but who knows when?

Today, for the rest of the day, I am going to get in my pyjamas, chill out and hide from the world!

Today I feel lonely, ashamed, extremely vulnerable and in need of a cuddle from my husband.